Why do Couples Fight?
Relationships are not always blissful. They take work and sacrifice from both people to make it work and run smoothly. When it isn’t going well, it can be very frustrating for each partner to try to deal with. Couples can fight for any reason at all. They will be unique in their own styles of communication, past histories, and their relationship with one another.
Arguments are almost inevitable when it is between two people in a relationship. Just because a couple will argue does not mean it is doomed to fail or that things will continue to be bad. However, there are definitely some common reasons why most couples fight.
Let’s go over some of the top reasons that can cause any couple to argue.
Finances
This is one of the biggest ones, which is why it is first on the list. Those in a relationship will rarely have the same spending or saving habits as the other person. Couples may argue about how the other spends their money or how much should be in savings at any given time. Things like credit cards and debt can leave one another pretty frustrated.
Intimacy Issues
Sexual intimacy, for most relationships, is at the core of feeling happy with one another. Most couples will inevitably face a period of time where something feels off in the bedroom. But, for the most part, that ends up rebounding. However, there are plenty of cases where intimacy can get in the way of a healthy relationship. Frequency of sex, feeling inadequate, and differences in sex drive can all get in the way.
Future Plans
In most relationships, the future will inevitably come up. Do both people want kids? How about getting married? What is their ideal location to move to, if any? A house, condo, or apartment? Will you have pets together? The future is a huge stress factor for many couples. But especially when there are differences in what the other person ultimately wants.
Household Responsibilities
For couples who live together, this is a big one as well. It’s strange to think that something as menial as taking out the garbage can cause a couple to fight. Unfortunately, household duties will often cause you both to get mad at one another, often for no reason in the end.
Just like everything else, there needs to be a balance of who does what in the house. If you are both doing work to keep it running smoothly, then it should never end up being a contest of “who did what.” And, let’s face it, there will be times when one person, for whatever reason, has to pick up the slack.
Parenting
For couples that have kids, raising children can often lead to fighting. With each partner coming from a different background in terms of their family life, they may have very different ideas of how they want to raise children. Some will prefer a more strict parenting style or others will be more relaxed and lenient.
Are You Fighting With Your Partner?
It’s challenging to know how to move forward when you can’t stop fighting. Maybe it’s over the same thing over and over or just small little things that end up popping up. Whatever the reason is for your arguments, know that it doesn’t have to mean the end of the relationship. In fact, most of the above can be solved by communicating more openly, honestly, and effectively with one another. Couples counseling may sound uncomfortable at first, but it can help you learn to communicate better so you can avoid arguing. Let’s connect soon so I can help you both find a way forward.
