What Couples Benefit Most from Emotionally Focused Therapy?
There are many different approaches for couples going to therapy. Depending on the needs of the couple, some methods, such as the Gottman Method, may be more effective than traditional talk therapy would be. Other couples could see the benefits of therapy when it uses attachment-based theories to explain why they are facing issues in their relationship. There is no right or wrong way to participate in couples therapy. It is just a matter of finding what will work best for both partners.
Another approach to couples counseling is EFT or Emotionally Focused Therapy. Before discussing what couples can benefit from EFT, let’s go over exactly what it is.
What Is EFT?
Instead of trying to fix a specific problem, EFT aids in creating real change in relationships. It works by developing conflict management skills that can help make the relationship feel less rocky. Conflict is a huge issue for most couples. It can be expected and healthy for couples to have conflict. However, it is only healthy when there is a peaceful resolution that ensures both partners’ needs and wants are being met.
What Are The Goals Of EFT?
At its core, the main goal of EFT is to help couples reconnect. To find a way to repair and strengthen their bonds. Another major goal for couples who participate in EFT is to understand their partner’s emotions and their own.
Part of this includes looking at attachment styles from the past. Attachment styles can be impacted by past romantic relationships, platonic friendships, or familial connections (or lack thereof). All of these areas of our lives can positively or negatively impact the health of future relationships.
A third goal that EFT strives to reach is learning to be less reactive to your partner—to respond to them in a more thoughtful and purposeful way. To understand the intentions and meaning behind their words or behaviors.
In a lot of relationships, the relationship begins breaking down when there are communication issues. As the lines of communication break down, it causes most relationships to build up a web of hurt and distrust and puts a wedge between the couple. One partner may take something the wrong way when the intention is the complete opposite.
How Does EFT Work?
Therapy is one of the most effective ways to help a couple learn the skills to have a healthier relationship. Instead of a therapist telling you what to do or taking sides, they serve as an unbiased third party. In this way, a counselor will observe the couple and how they communicate with one another about the issues they are facing. EFT is a safe and non-judgmental space for couples to learn how to foster healthy communication and conflict-resolution skills.
What Couples Can Benefit From EFT?
Now that we have gone over the goals and purpose of EFT, let’s dive into who EFT is for exactly.
The truth is, most couples can benefit from EFT because it focuses on the emotional and communication needs of each relationship. Couples that can benefit the most from EFT are:
Those who continually find themselves arguing about the same issues over and over again
Any couple who feels as if they have lost their connection with one another
Couples who struggle with communicating with one another in a healthy manner
Any couple who struggles with being honest and vulnerable with one another
EFT Can Help You Restore Your Connection
Emotionally Focused Therapy can have a huge impact on any relationship. If you feel as if you could benefit from this type of therapy, you aren’t wrong. Don’t hesitate to reach out to learn more about how this type of therapy can help you in couples therapy.
